caring husband and a merciful father

 

● The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, set the most wonderful examples in treating women well. He was a good role model in treating his wives, and he always recommended good treatment of women, and ordered them to be treated well in a good manner. He, may God bless him and grant him peace, was the highest example and role model in treating his wives and showing compassion to his family.
At the beginning, Dr. Abla Al-Kahlawi, a professor at Al-Azhar University, says: Our noble Messenger set the highest example in chastity, purity, and adherence to high morals and lofty values, so it can be said that he reached the pinnacle of all virtues. His Lord described him by saying: {And indeed, you are of a great moral character}. Lady Aisha described his character and said, "His character was the Qur'an."
Among the most sublime forms of idealism were his lofty goals in his marriage, his auspicious conduct in choosing his wives, and his ideal tolerance in treating them. His goals differed from those of most people. He did not pay attention to color or beauty, but rather cared about virtuous morals, praiseworthy qualities, and a pure heart.

Loyalty to the Messenger

He married Khadija when he was twenty-five and she was forty years old, in response to what had brought them together before the mission of good character and the rejection of the corrupt life that the people of Mecca lived before Islam.
History bears witness to the dazzling effects of this marriage on the path of the Islamic call, as Khadija supported him with herself, her money, her love and her belief, and he did not marry anyone else during her life at a time when polygamy among the Arabs was absolute and without limits or restrictions.
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was loyal to his wife Khadija in secret and in public, during her life and after her death, and he continued to mention Khadija with kindness throughout his life and said that she supported him with her money when people denied him and believed in him when people denied him, and he was blessed with sons and daughters from her.

A life of asceticism and austerity

Dr. Suad Saleh confirms the loftiness of the Prophet’s goals in his marriage. If we look at the circumstances of life that he lived in his house, peace and blessings be upon him, it was a harsh life to the extreme. Lady Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her,
says that a month or two would pass without a fire being lit in the house of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him. When she was asked: What did you live on? She said: On two black things: dates and water. She also said: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, was never satisfied for three consecutive days. If we wanted to, we could have been satisfied, but we give preference to ourselves.
If the goal of marriage was pleasure, he would have spent lavishly on these wives so that they would feel comfortable and happy in life. However, this is the praiseworthy legislation, and so when the wives of the Messenger gathered asking for more expenses and pleasures in life, the Messenger refused that, and the Quran was revealed to support him, saying: {If you desire the life of this world and its adornments, then come, I will provide for you and release you with gracious release. But if you desire Allah and His Messenger and the home of the Hereafter, then indeed, Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward.}
They all chose God, His Messenger, and the Hereafter, because they then realized the true purpose of the Messenger honoring them by marrying them.

Good company

Dr. Suad Saleh explains the Prophet’s treatment of his wives and his behavior in his home, saying: “He, may God bless him and grant him peace, was a role model and a good example in treating his wives well. How could he not be, when he said: ‘The most perfect of the believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are those who are best to their women. ’ He also said: ‘Only a noble man honors them, and only a vile man humiliates them. ’
One of the Prophet’s examples is that he did not abuse his wives, and it did not stop there. Rather, he would tolerate the anger of one of them without being stubborn or forceful, and he would respond to that with kindness, gentleness, and kind words.
Al-Bukhari and Muslim narrated on the authority of Aisha that she said: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: ‘I know when you are pleased with me and when you are angry with me. ’ I said: ‘How do you know that? ’ He said: ‘When you are pleased with me, you say: ‘No, by the Lord of Muhammad,’ and when you are angry with me, you say: ‘No, by the Lord of Abraham. ’ I said: ‘Yes, by God, O Messenger of God, I only abandon your name. ’”
It has been reported that when Aisha became angry, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) would place his hand on her shoulder and say: “O Allah, forgive her sin, remove the anger from her heart, and protect her from trials.”
What amazes one about the life of the Messenger of Allah is his complete trust in his wives, and evidence of that is what happened on the day of the slander. Some hypocrites accused the Mother of the Believers, Aisha, of something inappropriate, and that was enough to shake the stability of the household. However, the household of the Prophet remained cohesive because the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was never in doubt, and he remained confident in her for a month until Allah the Almighty revealed eighteen consecutive verses to exonerate the Mother of the Believers, Aisha, and threatened with punishment those who spoke against her without evidence. Allah the Almighty said: {And he among them who took upon himself the greater part thereof will have a great punishment.}

Participate in housework

It was known about the Messenger of Allah, as Aisha reported, that he was in the profession of his family and participated with them in the housework. She said: “He used to patch his clothes, milk the sheep, and do what men do in his house. When the time for prayer came, he would go out.”
Lady Aisha also said: “The Messenger of Allah never struck a woman or a servant, nor did he slap a cheek. He was not a swearer, nor was he rude or harsh.” The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, treated his wives with the utmost justice. He did not favor one of them over the other, and he used to warn against injustice between wives.
It was narrated that he said: “Whoever has two wives and leans towards one of them will come on the Day of Resurrection with one side leaning.” As for justice in the love of the heart, it is not possible. The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, expressed this by saying: “O God, this is my portion of what I own, so do not hold me accountable for what You own and I do not.” Meaning the inclination of the heart. Among the examples of the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, is that he never criticized food. If he liked it, he ate it, and if he disliked it, he left it. This is a valuable wisdom that many husbands should pay attention to, as they get angry and utter inappropriate words when their wives offer them food that they do not like.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The most perfect of the believers in faith are those who are best in character, and the best of you are those who are best to their women.” Narrated by Ahmad and the Sunan scholars.
The actions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) are exemplary... as he treated his wives in the best way and helped Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) with the housework . Should we follow the example of our Prophet in treating them well
? Aisha used to say: “When I was menstruating, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) would take the vessel containing food and swear to me to eat from it. Then he would take the vessel and look out for the place of my mouth and put his mouth where my mouth was in the vessel. As a courtesy, or rather as a friend and a show of affection, out of mercy for this wife, he would do this, and Aisha swore that he would do this with the vessel of water. Aisha would drink and he would take the vessel and look out for the place of her mouth and drink. All of this was to teach his nation how the relationship between spouses should be.”
How does affection and mercy last? How does a woman need to be kind to a man, to play with a man, to speak well to a woman? Our Prophet used to say: “The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family. Treat women well.” Our Lord Almighty says: “And speak to people kindly.”
A disagreement occurred between the Prophet and Aisha. He said to her: Who would you accept between you and me? Would you accept Omar?
She said: I will never accept Omar. “Omar is rough.” He
said: Would you accept your father between you and me? She said: Yes. So the Messenger of Allah sent a messenger to Abu Bakr. When he came, the messenger said: Will you speak or should I speak?
She said: Speak and do not say anything but the truth. Abu Bakr raised his hand and slapped her nose. Aisha turned away from him and took refuge behind the Prophet, until the Messenger of Allah said to him: I swear to you when you went out that we will not call you for this. So
when he went out, Aisha stood up and the Messenger said to her: Come closer to me; but she refused. He smiled and said: “Before, you were very clingy to my back” – referring to her taking refuge in his back for fear of her father hitting her – and when Abu Bakr returned and found them laughing, he said: “Include me in your greetings, as you included me in your path.” (Narrated by Al-Hafiz Al-Dimashqi) in Al-Simt Al-Thamin.
Despite the great status and high position enjoyed by the Noble Messenger, he is the master of mankind and the first intercessor and the first to be interceded for… the gentleness with which he dealt with his wives is beyond description.
And because the Messenger is human, as he said: “I am only a human being like you, to whom revelation is sent,” and so were his wives, the house of prophecy was subject to some disagreements and skirmishes from time to time…
However, there is an important difference that we should pay attention to, which is that Allah the Almighty has made our Noble Messenger the role model and the good example, and he is the best role model and the best example, as our Lord said about him in a book that will be recited until the Day of Judgment: “And indeed, you are of a great moral character.”
Therefore, if we review The controversial situations between the Prophet and his wives, we will find his behavior as a model that every Muslim man and woman should follow in order to attain happiness in this world and the hereafter.. The Messenger entered one day to his wife, Sayyida Safiyya bint Huyayy - may God be pleased with her - and found her crying, so he said to her, what makes you cry?
She said: Hafsa says: I am the daughter of a Jew; so he said: Tell her my husband is Muhammad, my father is Aaron, and my uncle is Moses. And thus we see how disagreements are resolved with simple words and a kind approach.
In Sahih Muslim, Sayyida Aisha tells us some of the morals of the Messenger of God, saying: The Messenger of God never struck anything with his hand, neither a woman nor a servant, except when he was fighting in the way of God..
And when anger intensifies, abandonment is, in the etiquette of the Prophethood, a method of treatment. The Messenger abandoned his wives when they were pressuring him to ask for money..
Even when the Noble Messenger wanted to divorce one of his wives, we find him friendly and merciful. That immortal position is said about Sawdah bint Zam’ah - may God be pleased with her - an old widow, not very beautiful, and heavy-bodied. She felt that her share of the Messenger’s heart was mercy, not love. In the end, it seemed to the Messenger that he should release her in a beautiful way in order to relieve her of a situation that he felt would hurt her and wound her heart. He waited until that night and was gentle in informing her of his intention to divorce her.
On the authority of Ibn Abbas, may God be pleased with him, he said: Sawdah feared that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, would divorce her, so she said: O Messenger of God, do not divorce me, but keep me and give my day to Aisha. So he did, and this verse was revealed: {And if a woman fears from her husband ill-treatment or desertion, there is no blame upon them if they make terms of settlement between themselves - and settlement is better.}
In another narration, he sent for her, may God bless him and grant him peace, and she was startled by the news and extended her hand seeking help, so the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, held her back, and she said: By God, I have no desire for husbands, but I would like him to send me on the Day of Resurrection as your wife. She said to him: Keep me, O Messenger of God, and give my night to Aisha. So the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was affected by Sawdah’s great position. He took pity on her, held on to her, kept her, and gave us another lesson in chivalry, may God bless him and grant him peace.
In the Hadith of Al-Ifk - the Hadith that shook the House of Prophethood, and even shook the entire Muslim community - the position of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was a beacon for every Muslim, especially in that time when husbands often accused their wives or wives accused their husbands with or without reason. Sayyida Aisha narrated in the two Sahihs saying: “I complained when we arrived in Madinah for a month, and people were pouring out talk about the people of slander, and I did not feel any of that, and it made me suspicious in my pain that I did not see from the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, the kindness that I saw from him when I complained. Rather, the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, would enter and say, ‘How are you?’”
When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) delivered a sermon on the pulpit, he would say: “O Muslims, who will excuse me from a man who has harmed my family? By Allah, I have only known good about my family.” When he spoke to Aisha, he would say to her with his usual gentleness (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): “As for what follows, Aisha, I have heard such and such about you. If you are innocent, Allah will acquit you, and if you have committed a sin, seek forgiveness from Allah and repent to Him.” The hadith of the slander is narrated in the two Sahihs. Until Allah sent down from above the seven heavens an acquittal that pleased the heart of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), Aisha, and all Muslims.
Imam Ibn al-Qayyim said in explaining the way the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) treated his wives
: “His conduct with his wives was: good treatment and good manners. He would let the daughters of the Ansar play with Aisha, and if she liked something that was not forbidden, he would follow her in it.” “ When she drank from the vessel, he would take it and put his mouth where her mouth was and drink. When she sweated, he would take it and put his mouth where her mouth was.”
“He would lean on her lap and recite the Qur’an with his head on her lap. Sometimes she was menstruating. He would order her while she was menstruating to cover herself and then he would have intercourse with her. He would kiss her while he was fasting.”
“It was part of his kindness and good character that he would let her play and show her the Abyssinians playing in his mosque while she was leaning on his shoulders watching. He would race her on foot twice. They would push each other when they were leaving the house once.”
“When he prayed the ‘Asr prayer, he would go to his wives, approach them and inquire about their conditions. When night came, he would go to the one whose turn it was and single her out for the night. Aisha said: He would not favor one of us over the other in his spending time with them in terms of his portion of time. There was hardly a day without him going around to all of us, approaching each woman without touching her, until he reached the one whose turn it was, and he would spend the night with her.”
If we reflect on what we have mentioned here about the gift of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, in his treatment of his wives, we find that he would care for all of them, ask about all of them, and approach all of them. However, he would give Aisha some extra attention, and that was not in vain or out of favoritism, but out of consideration for her virginity and young age. He married her when she was a young virgin who had not known any man other than him, peace be upon him. The needs of such a girl and her demands from a man are definitely greater than the needs of an experienced, mature woman who has had experience with him.
By need here I do not mean merely expenses, clothing or even marital relations, but the need of the soul and feelings is more important and deeper than all of that.
It is no wonder that we saw the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, paying attention to that aspect and giving it its due, and not neglecting it, in the midst of his huge burdens, towards the policy of calling to Islam, forming the nation, and establishing the state. (Indeed, in the Messenger of God you have an excellent pattern).
Is there in any agreement, constitution or other system what came in Islam and how it legislated legislations that aim to preserve the honor and dignity of women and obligated men to perform their full rights and guaranteed solutions for the problems that confront them in their marital and public lives?
Let us reflect on the Prophet’s treatment of his wives, as Ibn Kathir – may God have mercy on him – mentioned in his interpretation of the Almighty’s saying: (And live with them in kindness): {That is, be kind to them in your words and improve your actions and appearances according to your ability, as you would like that from them, so do the same to them, as God Almighty said: (And for them [the wives] is similar to what is due to them, according to what is equitable). The Messenger of God – may God bless him and grant him peace – said: The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family. Among his morals – may God bless him and grant him peace – was that he was pleasant to deal with, always cheerful, would joke with his family, be kind to them, spend generously on them, and make his wives laugh, to the point that he would race Aisha, the Mother of the Believers – may God be pleased with her – to show her affection for him. She said: The Messenger of God – may God bless him and grant him peace – raced me, and I won, and that was before I was carrying the meat. Then I raced him after I was carrying the meat, and he won, so he said: This is for that. His wives would gather every night in the house of the one with whom the Messenger of God – may God bless him and grant him peace – would spend, and he would eat dinner with them sometimes, then each one would go to her home. He would sleep with one of his wives in one garment, taking the cloak off his shoulders and sleeping in the lower garment. When he prayed, Dinner comes home, chats with his family for a while before going to sleep, comforting them with that, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him
and the Messenger, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, wanted us to know that Islam is not only a religion of rulings, morals and beliefs, but also a religion of love, a religion that elevates your feelings until you feel for the woman you marry and feel for the friend who accompanied you for a while, and for everyone who did you a favor or with whom you have a connection, even with a word (There is no god but God, Muhammad is the Messenger of God).
So why don’t we revolve around the Prophet as a husband, as educators, reformers and preachers revolve around the Prophet as a leader and teacher?

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) treated his wives, children and all people in the most perfect and complete manner, as evidenced by the books of Hadeeth and Seerah. We will mention examples of that pure treatment. Abu Dawood, Al-Tirmidhi, Al-Nasa’i and others narrated on the authority of Aisha (may Allaah be pleased with her) who said: I have never seen anyone more similar in appearance, charm and guidance to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) than Fatima. When she entered upon him, he would stand up for her, take her hand, kiss her and seat her in his seat. And when he entered upon her, she would stand up for him, take his hand, kiss him and seat him in her seat. And
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: The best of you are the best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family. Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi, who said: Hasan Saheeh. Family here includes wives, relatives and children, as stated in Tuhfat Al-Ahwadhi fi Sharh Al-Tirmidhi. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “ The most perfect of the believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are those with the best character to their women.” Narrated by Ahmad and At-Tirmidhi.
He used to advise his companions to treat their wives well and say: “They are captives with you.” Narrated by At-Tirmidhi.
In Sahih Al-Bukhari , it is narrated on the authority of Al-Aswad that he asked Aisha: “ What did the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) do in his house?” She said: “He used to serve his family,” meaning, when the time for prayer came, he would go out to pray. Ahmad and Ibn Hibban
narrated , and authenticated it, on the authority of Urwah that he said: “ I asked Aisha: What did the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) do in his house?” She said: “He used to sew his clothes, mend his shoes, and do what men do in their houses.”
This indicates that he helped his family, not as some people imagine, that it is a shortcoming or a defect for a man to help his family with housework. This cooperation creates intimacy and love between a husband and his wife, as is well known.
As for his treatment of his servants, it was the best treatment, as narrated by his servant Anas bin Malik , who said: I served the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) for ten years, and by Allah, he never said to me: “Ugh” or did he ever say to me about anything: “Why did you do such and such?” Agreed upon, and the wording is from Muslim.
In Sahih Al-Bukhari, on the authority of Anas bin Malik (may Allah be pleased with him), he said: One of the female slaves of the people of Medina would take the hand of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and go with him wherever she wanted.
This indicates his great humility, and the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to say: “No one humbles himself before Allah except that He raises him up.” Narrated by Muslim.
In Ibn Majah, and authenticated by Ibn Hibban: “Whoever humbles himself before Allah, He raises him up until He places him in the highest of the highest.
” There are many well-known reports about his humility and good treatment of his family and the believers, and even the disbelievers, which can be referred to in his biography (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).
And Allah knows best.

Mufti:


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 When Allah the Almighty spoke about the family, He made love the basis of His words: “And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy.” Affection is love. Allah the Almighty made mercy come after affection, because if affection is absent and the husband is merciful to his wife, and the wife is merciful to her husband, then there will be no love. However, if affection returns, then love will return, and good treatment between spouses is the only way to restore love. As for cruelty, harshness, and oppression, they are what block the way for love to return.

The man’s priorities in his responsibility for the family are upbringing and then spending. If it is of no use for the man to claim that he has fulfilled his duty when he spent on his children and wife, then where is his embrace of his children and his tenderness towards them, and where is his affection for his wife? Likewise, the woman’s priorities are tenderness towards the man and raising the children, and then comes work. One of the main duties of the man is to show tenderness to the woman, and Allah the Almighty said: “They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them.”

If we return to the house of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, we find that he did not call Lady Aisha by her name, but rather he used to call her Aisha. He used to feed her in her mouth with his hand. When her period came, he would look for the place of her lips on the vessel when she drank water, and he would put his lips where her lips had been to make her feel tender. He would take her out for a walk every week, and he never made excuses about being busy with his work or responsibilities. He would play with her and race with her, and she would race him. He would feed her a lot so that she would gain weight, but she would not outpace him. When he would outpace her in a race, he would say to her: O Aisha, and this for that. So she would understand that he was deliberately feeding her a lot to gain weight and win the race.

The wives of the Prophet said: The Messenger of Allah ( peace and blessings be upon him) was laughing in his house. That is, he would laugh and make his family laugh. He was not silent like the husbands these days, where wives complain of marital muteness. They would say: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) would talk to us and we would talk to him, but when the call to prayer was made, it was as if he did not know us and we did not know him.
Lady Aisha would sit for hours talking to him and he would listen to her and ask him: How is your love for me? He would say: Like a knot in a rope. She would say: So I would leave him for days and then come back to ask him: How is the knot, O Messenger of Allah? He would say: It is the same. False hadith.

Amr ibn al-Aas would ask him: Who is the most beloved person to you, O Messenger of Allah? He would say: Aisha, my wife.

Many men now hurt their wives’ feelings when they say to their wives: Stop being romantic, I cannot say words of love to you. The Prophet, peace be upon him, would say words of love to his wife.

The companion Ibn Abbas would cut his hair, dress up and wear perfume, and his companions would ask him: Are you going to get married? He would say: No, I am going to my house. They would be surprised and ask him: Does a man who goes to his house do all that? He would say: I am going to meet my wife, I want to dress up for her, just as I want her to dress up for me.



A Minister of Endowments in an Islamic country told me in front of his wife that he was sitting in his office with a distinguished scholar. The minister's phone rang, and he answered the phone in classical Arabic, saying: Yes, my heart's delight. As you wish, my life.

The scholar was astonished by what the minister had said. After the latter finished the call, he asked him: Who were you talking to on the phone?

He said: My wife. The

scholar asked him: Are you used to talking to her this way?

He said: I can only talk to her this way.

The scholar picked up the phone and called his wife. When she answered, he said: Hello, my love.

I shouted at him: Do you know who you are talking to?!

I say again that a man's priorities should be: raising children, showing affection to his wife, and then spending on the home.

Children must feel that they have a father who raises them, and that he is not just a safe deposit box. If the father neglects the first aspect and is satisfied with spending, he shouts when he is surprised that his son is addicted to drugs: I did not skimp on him with anything, so why did he do that? He forgot that he did not sit with his children to listen to them, discuss with them, and share his experiences and advice.



We want to preserve our homes even if it is at the expense of part of our financial gains.
We want love to return to our homes. Give your wife 10% affection, and she will give you 50% affection and loyalty.

Then we come to women's work. Islam is keen on the Muslim woman succeeding in practical life. Islam wants her to succeed as an employee and manager. And to succeed in the charitable organization and in the private project. This is an Islamic goal.

The Prophet opened a small hospital to treat people. Omar bin Al-Khattab appointed a woman to be responsible for controlling the markets. But what is required is for a woman to strike a balance between her work, tenderness for her husband, and raising children. And her success in her work should not be at the expense of the cohesion of her home, her love for her husband, and her care for her children. If a woman's success in her work will lead to the failure of her marital and family life, then there is no need for it.



The wife is the one who gives tenderness to the husband so that he is steadfast and successful. The husband needs the wife's pat on the back when he faces failure or a crisis. The wife is the one who is entrusted with raising the children, as the mother is a school. Raising children is not about telling your children: Eat, drink, sleep, and study your lessons.

Raising children is about correcting morals, discovering and unleashing children's talents, and after that comes their success in practical life.

This is the correct arrangement of priorities for a Muslim wife, and the framework of the relationship between the mother and children must be affection and love.

The Prophet (PBUH) said: “The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family.”

He also said: “Treat women well.”

He also said: “The most perfect of the believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of them are those who are best to their women.”

The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said to Ali when he proposed to his daughter Fatima: “Will you treat her well?”

Aisha said: “Woman is a man’s plaything, so let the man treat his plaything well.”

Treating your wife well is something that is highly desirable.

Look at the treatment of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) to one of his wives before and after his marriage
to her. Anas said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came from Khaybar, and when Allah opened the fortress for him, he was told of the beauty of Safiyyah bint Huyayy, whose husband had been killed and who was a bride. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) chose her for himself, and he went out with her until they reached the dam of As-Sahba’ and consummated the marriage with her. Then he made a hais on a small cloth, and the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Inform those around you.” That was the feast of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) for Safiyyah.
Then we went out to Madinah, and I saw the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) wrapping his cloak behind him for her, then he sat by his camel and put his knee on it, and Safiyyah put her foot on his knee so that she could mount! The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be

upon him) used to race Aisha, and she beat him once and he beat her another time, and he said to her: This is for that.

Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction , and argue with them in a way that is best. Indeed, your Lord is most knowing of who has strayed from His way, and He is most knowing of the [rightly] guided.
[An-Nahl: 125]

And do not insult those they invoke other than God, lest they insult God in enmity without knowledge. [Al-An`am 6:108]

How many of us thought of invoking the Sunnah of the Prophet in his love for his wives,

just as we try to embody it in all other aspects of life?!..
A war that is not devoid of love!
The swords and blood could not make the leader
(despite all the responsibilities and hardships of war with all its worries) forget to care for his beloved.


Anas said: “...We went out to Medina (coming from Khaybar)
and I saw the Prophet sitting by his camel,
placing his knee and Safiyyah placing her foot on his knee so that she could ride” (narrated by Al-Bukhari).
The Messenger - may God bless him and grant him peace - was not ashamed for his soldiers to see this scene. Why should he be ashamed? Wasn’t she his beloved?!
It seems that this raid was not exceptional,
but rather it is the same love in all his raids and it increases..
The matter reached the point of the humanity of the Noble Messenger to joke with Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her)
on his return from one of the raids, so he would make the caravan advance so far from them that she could not see them and then he would race her..
and not once but twice..
His extreme tenderness with his wives reached the point
that he would even pity them for the speed of the driver in leading the camels that they were riding.
On the authority of Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
was on a journey and there was a boy named Anjasha who was urging them
(i.e. some of the Mothers of the Believers and Umm Sulaym) who was called Anjasha, so
he was very aggressive with them in the process, so the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
"Slow down, Anjasha, your driving is with the glass bottles." (Narrated by Al-Bukhari).
Love in a loud voice!
And when the voices are lowered when mentioning the names of their wives,
we find our Noble Messenger declaring his love for his wives in front of everyone.
On the authority of Amr ibn Al-Aas that he asked the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) which of the people is most beloved to you.
He said: Aisha, so I said: Who are the men? He said: Her father. (Narrated by Al-Bukhari).
And on the authority of his wife, Sayyida Safiyya bint Huyayy, she said:
“She came to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) to visit him during his seclusion in the mosque during the last ten days of Ramadan.
She talked with him for a while, then got up to leave. The Prophet (peace be upon him) got up with her to accompany her.
When she reached the mosque at the door of Umm Salamah, two men from the Ansar passed by and greeted the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him).
He said to them: ‘Take it easy, she is Safiyya bint Huyayy. ’ (Narrated by Al-Bukhari).
And with the behavior of a “gentleman,”
Anas tells us that a Persian neighbor of the Messenger of Allah
was good at cooking broth, so he made a dish for the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and then came to invite him.
Our Master Muhammad (peace be upon him) refused the invitation twice because his neighbor did not invite Aisha to eat with him,
which is what the neighbor did in the end!
The best of romance!
Regardless of the happiness that
any person enjoys in the company of the Messenger of God,
the wives of our noble Prophet enjoyed marital happiness.
All daughters of Eve envy them for this.
Who among us does not wish to live with a husband who respects her rights
and protects her feelings more than anything else?
Rather, he makes caring for his family, being kind to them, and
loving them a criterion for the goodness of a man, may God bless him and grant him peace
: “The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family.” (Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah).
Aisha narrated that she used to bathe with the Messenger of God (may God bless him and grant him peace) in one vessel,
and he would take the initiative and she would take the initiative, until he would say to her, “Leave some for me,” and she would say, “Leave some for me.”
And she said:
“I used to drink while I was menstruating, so I would give it to the Prophet (may God bless him and grant him peace), and he would put his mouth where my mouth was
.” (Narrated by Muslim and Al-Nasa’i).
And Maymunah (may God be pleased with her) said:
“The Messenger of God (may God bless him and grant him peace) would enter upon one of us while she was menstruating, and he would put his head in her lap and recite the Qur’an,
and then one of us would take her veil and put it in the mosque while she was menstruating.” (Narrated by Ahmad).
Despite their large number, the Messenger of Allah (PBUH),
the leader and messenger, would check on their conditions and wanted the love to remain and continue. Ibn Abbas said:
“When the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) prayed the dawn prayer, he would sit in his prayer place and the people would sit around him
until the sun rose. Then he would enter upon his wives, one by one, greet them and pray for them.
When it was one of their days, he would be with her.” (Fath Al-Bari, Sharh Sahih Al-Bukhari).
The House of Prophecy
In an era that had been far from luxury for thousands of years,
the loving Messenger was the best supporter for his wives.
It was narrated on the authority of Lady Aisha in more than one place that he was in the service of his household.
Aisha was asked what the Prophet (PBUH) used to do in his house.
She said: He used to do his family’s work (i.e. serve his family) (Narrated by Al-Bukhari).
In another incident, Aisha was asked what the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) used to do in his house.
She said: “He used to sew his clothes, mend his shoes, and do what men do in their homes.”
Our Master Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, remained loyal to his first wife Khadija throughout her life.
He never married another woman until she died. After her death, he openly declared his love for her in front of everyone.
He was kind to her friends out of respect for her memory,
to the point that Lady Aisha, may God be pleased with her, used to say: “
I have never been jealous of any of the Prophet’s wives as much as I was of Khadija.
I never saw her, but the Prophet used to mention her often. He
would sometimes slaughter a sheep, cut it into pieces, and send them to Khadija’s friends.
I would sometimes say to him: ‘It is as if there was no woman in the world except Khadija.’
He would say: ‘She was and was, and I had a son from her.’” (Narrated by Al-Bukhari) ..... And God Almighty is Most High and All-Knowing.
This is our noble Prophet, the greatest of God’s creation,
and this is his behavior in treating women
and his wives.
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